Hello friends,
I did not tell many of my wife’s battle with lung cancer last year and did not want to distract from the forum with my personal problems. I offer this information as an update to my past and present situation regarding my wife and hope I am not too far out of line by posting this here. I just thought it may help answer questions some may have, and perhaps it may help you with your relationships.
On January 15, 2012 I lost my loving wife of 42 years to a year long battle with lung cancer. She went through a lobectomy surgery in May 2011 which the surgeon proclaimed had left her ’cancer free’ and without the need for chemotherapy or radiation treatments. Several months later she had a re-scan that showed cancer hot spots throughout her body and was given a stage 4 terminal cancer diagnosis. What a shock after being told she was ’cancer free’ and I somehow feel like the ’ball was dropped’ by the people we had entrusted with her care.
She was the driving force in our marriage and family and always managed to find a good perspective on life and pass her loving and caring touch on to everyone she came in contact with.
I also want to say ”hold onto your loved ones, and keep them near to your heart.
Never take things for granted and try to do the things you want to do with them while they are near.” I never thought my Mary would be taken from me and I even told her she was not going anywhere! I was so wrong about that and very possibly wrong about many other things, so please take the time to reconsider your point of view and realize that time is short and once your loved one is gone it is very final.
Give them that hug and kiss at every possible occasion. Share your loving thoughts openly with them so there will never be any doubt. I had so many things to say to my wife in those last moments, but could not get the words past my tears and crying, and did not want her to be worried about me. Say those things now, say them loud and clear or whisper them, but be sure to say them.
”I love you with all my heart Mary, and always will. Thanks for the wonderful life, family, and times we shared with each other. I will always hold your heart near to mine and cherish the memories and times you so generously shared with me”
Wes and Mary forever!
OK, sorry I just needed to get some of those thoughts out of my head. Thanks for being a great group of people to be involved with! I look forward to spending more of my time being involved on the forum soon.
Best regards,
Wes Spence
aka metalworkz